Tips for Moving On

Recently (as you know if you read my last blog) I was broken up with, while I am currently pregnant. It was a tough pill to swallow, and I’m still figuring out how to cope with losing someone who was so important to me for the last five years. Everything has changed, you go from relying so heavily on a person for happiness, and constantly having a person to run to when you become overwhelmed, to basically feeling like you have absolutely no one there for you. Being alone is a scary feeling, one I used to be ok with. But things change when you fall in love with someone. You get used to having a partner, you get used to having a person to share your ups and downs with. I have taken some time to cry, eat a ridiculously unhealthy amount of junk food and watch sappy movies. None of that helped, in order to being to move on and feel yourself again I had to stop hiding. Here is what I did to help me feel better about myself, I hope it works for you too!

1. I woke up every morning and wrote down three things I was grateful, thankful, or blessed to have in my life

Starting your day off with three positive things, sets the mood for the rest of your day. I had to stop waking up and feeling sorry for myself and started waking up and feeling blessed for all the amazing things in my life. (hello, the amazing child I was growing)

2. I deleted my ex off of ALL social media platforms

Now this was one was hard, he was the father of my child, I had to keep some contact with him, right? Eh, yes and no. I still needed to communicate with him via text messages about the health of our child, but I did not need to see him posting about his new found love all over Facebook and Instagram. BOY BYE

3. Make a playlist of your favorite songs and play them on repeat

Dean Lewis thank you for being the musical god that you are! Being a dancer for so many years I learned to express emotions through dance and holy cow did it help now. Due to being pregnant and not wanting to overdo it, I limited my movements to stretching. I downloaded music from Dean Lewis and played it on repeat while I stretched. Listen to them in the car, at the gym, while you’re in the shower, anywhere!

4. Get active

My energetic 1-year old German was lying in bed with me during the first few dark weeks (where all I did was cry and eat). She needed exercise and so did I! The beautiful New England Spring weather is approaching and is the perfect excuse to get outside and move your body. I felt SO much better after taking her to Lincoln Woods and walking around. Take a walk after work, take a walk before work, go to the gym, go to a yoga class. Do something that will keep your mind occupied and your body healthy.

5. Don’t bottle up your emotions

The worst thing I found that I did during this break up, was shut everyone out. I’m not the person to openly talk about what is bothering me (not a good thing I know), I much rather give advice then ask for it. I always felt like I was being an annoyance to friends and family when I wanted to vent. Friends and family are there for a reason, they all want to help you as much as possible. Even if they force themselves to into your house with Chick Fil A and milkshakes (E and M), let them in. and if you aren’t comfortable discussing your emotions with friends or family, seek professional help. Sometimes it’s easier to talk to a stranger than it is a friend.

For those of you who aren't 4 months pregnant, get back out there! Say yes to your friends who want to go out on a Friday or Saturday night. Your prince might be there! I'm not saying to throw yourself onto every attractive human out there, unless you want to who am I to judge! Let yourself be open to the possibility. Not everyone is going to leave you for someone else.

Lastly, lets remember the wise words our Queen Beyonce once said;

"Who runs this motha? GIRLS!" and don't let anyone tell you differently